The Lost One!

Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too. __Will Smith

There are times in our lives when we feel hopeless as though there is no purpose for us to have fallen into this earth. Memories dig its hole in our hearts and we feel like we are not better than the person we were; in fact we are worse off. A stagnant feeling like the wind has stopped blowing all of a sudden and the ship we sail on moves no more and like the life we live has a meaning no more arises within us. But, I don’t think that our lives have lost their meanings but it was just never discovered. We were created from a piece of clay and were made into this human being who has a heart within which beats constantly and a brain to think which keeps sending its sensory messages every second. As I type now, my brain sends a message to my fingers to press on the key which says ‘K’ and ‘E’ and I just wonder; how can things be so perfect? Subhanallah!

 Many people have come to me and talked about their problems and asked me; ‘okay, now what am I supposed to do?’ I would provide the solution which I think would be the best for them but I always wished to ask them one thing; what do you think you are supposed to do?

We feel lost at some point in our lives and we want people to find us. But one thing I would say is; if you have lost yourself and tried hard to figure out why people don’t come to you; then you aren’t searching for a solution but you are complicating the problem you are trapped in. Instead of wondering why people don’t pick you up each time you tripped, you should try hard to get up on your own feet independently and find the reason as to why you have slipped off in the first place. Cursing the stone by which you tripped won’t solve your problem because it wasn’t its mistake to be lying in the middle of the road or on the pavement where you happened to be walking; it was your mistake to have not seen it just like every time in our lives we curse the people who cause problems to us but never think of the reason as to why does it happen to us in the first place. I thought it was senseless when people said ‘we invite problems’ but now I know that the statement is partly true. Most of the times, it is we who create problems on our own or just complicate a small issue by overthinking and exaggerating the situation.

We have seen people worrying and ruining the little moments of their lives when they had to live happily cherishing the precious seconds of their lives. Its their worries which make them look older than they are and its their worries which gobbles the happiness. The reason being, we humans are those creatures who find faulty assumptions better and pleasing than the good ones. Even in the wide ocean, if we find a cluster of dark particles floating; to our eyes the beauty of the blue is lost and only the dirt is seen which disgusts us. No matter how overwhelmingly happy we are; when there is an issue to worry about there is always a grief in the corner of our hearts. That’s when issues become problems and vice versa. Mostly, thinking about an issue just solves it right away because there is a tint of positivity in thinking that ‘it is not impossible to fight the problems’. But there are times when we think about the consequences we had to face because of the issue and cry our eyes out for all the pain it had caused and eventually we turn to look out for sympathy from people and forget that all we need is to get out and face the world alone with empathy of some truly caring people because no matter how close a person may be to you; in the end we are all alone and we are accountable for what we do. That is how individualistic we are created.

It is always good to talk to someone close to you because surprisingly at times, when you blurt things out; you feel extremely happy as though a burden has been lifted off your chest. When you feel helpless, do anything other than be quiet and cry all day and night; instead speak to someone who you feel would listen to you or just write in your book/diary or whatever but most importantly ‘pray’! Trust me, prayers do wonderful things to you and I wouldn’t ever find the right words to explain the peacefulness you acquire when you have cried in front of the Lord and communicate with Him opening up your hearts. You would have never felt your chest lighter than that moment when you have washed away your sorrows by confessing everything.

People may hurt you or taunt you; but life goes on because they do not have the power to prevent the clock from ticking or rule your mind or heart. Don’t let people’s words rise to that eminent position because they don’t deserve it. It is you that matters and your life is in your hands. Petty issues like the atoms in a molecule don’t deserve your attention because you rule and overpower them and they can never do the same. Life may seem hard, but we were created for a purpose and that is to worship the Creator and live by His words. When we abide by the norms He has set, everything would be fine. Fine doesn’t mean a world without any problems; for problems are tests and Allah gives the hardest of His tests to the strongest of His soldiers. When you find people whom you think are absolutely happy and have nothing to worry about, remember even they are being tested but the difference is that they are being tested with happiness and joy and they would pass if they are thankful and live with piety and so will you because every time you shut your eyes to ask Allah for a solution, you are remembering Him and when you do so, place all your trust on Him and keep trying and asking and do everything in your power and surely He will offer you a solution, but patience and perseverance are the keys to satisfaction.

Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it. _ Lou Holtz

Sipping the Pleasures, 'The New Hot!'

Billions of people, trillions of stories and infinite expressions. Diverse people, the same oxygen is what they breathe but yet each story of life untold with a twist and spice of its own. Some bad and some good, but one thing does hit the minds, everything did happen for good. Believe it or not; that is true. A loss of reputation or something dear to our heart like self-esteem causes a pain which is quite inexplainable. The feeling or the sorrow cannot be simply put into words for one may not understand even if the most mawkish words were used. But understanding happens only when an individual puts himself/herself into the other person’s shoes and look at the world from their eyes. At that moment, everything begins to make sense.

Too often, we humans have the tendency to get into a conclusion. Some may perceive an extreme form of good deed as a bad one and the others may do the vice-versa. But whatever the case maybe, we judge. There is a famous saying, ‘that which you witness is a lie, that which you hear is a lie; only a deep understanding after investigation is true’. When I was quite young, I didn’t understand whatever this meant (I don’t think many children do), how come something I see could not be true because I see it. Well, the apparent meanings are what struck the psyche all the time. But of course, now all of us know what this actually means. The biggest problem of the entire nation of humans is their tendency to judge people by their looks, apparent deeds or the so called facts prevailing around about them. Seriously, fellow humans; facts of a person? Where are we living? What have we come to?

A stranger comes up and tells that XYZ is so and so; and you just believe them blindly. Why? Have we ever thought about that which we are talking about before starting our conversation? Gossip is made extremely lustrous these days that it doesn’t seem wrong anymore. But, little do some know about the consequences a gossip or rumour could create in one’s life. Digging the past and misunderstanding the whole issue of existence of an individual reduces a noble human being to a downtrodden individual in just a fraction of seconds. One minute of talk is enough to destroy the reputation of a person that he/she has strove to build since years. Is this what our forefathers taught us?

Talking isn’t bad. Personally, I myself am a talkative person; you can even call me Ms. Chatter Prattler. But, talking about someone else is worse than anything else. In the words of Islam, backbiting is equal to eating a dead brother’s flesh! On hearing that, don’t you feel like as though someone is pricking your sense with a highly pointed needle? I am no noble human being, none of us are perfect. At some point of our life, we are bound to talk wrong about someone else or just gossip about them, but we, as true believers or just a human being need to consider the consequences of the words we utter. Words are precious; once thrown out; they can never be taken back. They cannot be retrieved, but they can be recycled; only if you take a step down your ego ladder and proceed to ask forgiveness to the person whom you may have hurt directly or indirectly.

Before thinking about the ways you can stop talking behind someone’s back; we need to know what distinguishes between a normal talk and a gossip. Before uttering anything about a person, ask yourself ‘if the person whom I am going to talk about was to sit right in front of me now, will I be able to say that which I am willing to say right now?’ That one simple question can change the whole way you converse with people. As I wrote above, each and every person in this world has a story of their own. We do not know the perfect reasoning or consequence a person has to deal with; for we are mere observers and they are the ones who are living their hearts out. With all the social media around us; sleeping at night has become a chore and some of us do it only because not doing so would cause serious health risks. Otherwise, most of our good times would be spent in knowing or in other words stalking other’s lives and trust me; if you find anything good about that individual, you may forget that in a few days but if something close to bad seems to pop out; that is enough to fuel the conversation for one whole week when even the worse of writers become great storytellers and guess what; they sound so factual!

Communication is essential. It is that characteristic of ours which differentiates us from laggards. We need a drive in our life and to achieve the goal we must communicate. We meet people every day and in the extremely inter-connected world we live in, we have got the opportunity to be best buddies even with the person living under the oceans (mind the hyperbole, nobody lives of course, or do they?). The point that matters is the subject on which you ‘converse’. Weather it may be workplace, school, market, party or wherever; you just have to remember the principles you have set in your lives and should always remember to put yourselves in the shoes of the person whom you are talking about. The other individual (the victim in here) may be an ethical or a complete unethical person; but that does not matter, for he/she also holds onto a soul like you do and he/she also has heart within which cringes on hearing the negative remarks of the people around him/her. It’s not just women (as popularly claimed)these days who talk a lot and gossip A LOT, it is men as well, sort of like a trend eh?

Be careful with your tongue, for it either makes you compassionate or it may betray you. Use it wisely and remember to begin the process of recycling if you have ever at all thrown some litter out there. Wish you all happy days ahead! Talk wise and share a happy slice of your life with someone close to your heart! Do not waste your short life here by dwelling in others’ lives. Care and share but never betray.